God's Way To Find Your Spouse
Step 1 - The feeling that someone's missing...
20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. (Genesis 2:20)
- Adam realized that he was alone. He saw how everything else had a counter-part, but he didn't. Our first step is to realize that we are alone and that someone is missing in our life.
- It is interesting that Adam had had a purpose and a personal calling before he found Eve. Sometimes we hope to find a purpose and meaning in another human being, but God is the only one who can give this to us. The reason for marriage is not to give your life meaning, but to join two people with their callings together.
- Few people will never have the feeling that anybody is missing in their life. They are content with being single. Jesus refers to that in Mt 19:12. If you find delight in this statement, you might be one of them. If you get afraid you might be one of them, don't worry, you are not!
Step 2 - Lean back!
21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. (Genesis 2:21)
- The next step for Adam was simply that God put him asleep. Adam's part starts and ends with the point of noticing that he is not supposed to be alone. There is nothing else he was supposed to do.
- Our part is to rest. He wants us to lean back because He will get into action. He does not want us to start dating or to desperately look for this somebody everywhere we go. He wants us to rest in His promise that He will take care of it.
Step 3 - God will bring you two together.
22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. (Genesis 2:22)
- God takes care of it. And He really makes an effort here: taking the rib, covering it again, making a woman and bringing her to Adam. I can easily imagine how excited God must have been when He was about to present Eve to Adam, because He really did a good job.
- God will bring you two together at the right time and at the right place. God is so careful and diligent that everything will work out. Don't be afraid that you might miss each other. He will really bring you together.
- God created somebody for you. It is not like there are hundreds of possible partners from which you have to choose. God created someone specific for you. Also read this:
27 So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:27)
- When God created human beings, He actually did not create them alone, but as man and woman - two! When God created you, He didn't only create you but also your significant other, your other half.
Step 4 - Enjoying that you totally fit together.
23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman', for she was taken out of man." (Genesis 2:23)
- Adam says "bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh". He actually says: "Wow, we totally fit in an amazing way. We are absolutely made for each other." Notice Adam's reaction. You can feel his surprise about Eve. Our counter-part God created will always be somebody who fits the way we are, being very similar in many aspects and differ in a few to create a good measure of diversity which will create growth into the depth on both sides.
- We will always delight in the person God created for us and will be the same delight to the person we are created for. It shouldn't be different. God does not bring us together with somebody who does not fit at all, or somebody who we perceive as ugly or somebody we cannot stand. He does not want to cause a lot of fraction just to make us learn humility. That's not His way
An encouraging Word for SinglesI know, sometimes this time of sleeping and leaning back can feel very very long. And sometimes it is just too easy to force something to happen, but we will only create pain to ourselves by doing this. Have a bit more patience and let God do the work. He knows best and can do best.
So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. For in just a very little while, (s)he who is coming will come and will not delay. (Hebrews 10:35-37)
God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks. It's a good thing to quietly hope, quietly hope for the help from God. It's a good thing when you're young to stick it out through the hard times. When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don't ask questions: Wait for hope to appear. (Lamentations 3:25-29 Message)