tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post3142879318246101513..comments2024-02-28T14:08:48.430+01:00Comments on A Yearning Heart's Journey: God's Way To Find Your SpouseBenjamin Schäferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comBlogger173125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-68492197763041159732023-01-25T10:27:51.945+01:002023-01-25T10:27:51.945+01:00Keep up the good fight, don't throw away your ...Keep up the good fight, don't throw away your confidence which will have a great reward. Waiting can sometimes (or rather oftentimes) drag out longer than we expect and hope (just look at the heroes of the faith in the Bible). But it's always worth it and always for our good. Not God withholding good from us, but God withholding okay things to give us the good things. His no is always said to bless, not to withhold. <br /><br />About your question: If you asked my wife, she will tell you that she noticed me right away and noticed a kindred spirit. But at that time she wasn't actively looking or expecting to find her spouse. At the same time she thought that her circumstances at that point didn't allow her to get into a relationship. And yet, within 3 weeks of knowing each other, we were in a relationship. Her side of the story required a different type of trust than mine did. <br /><br />In any case, I would never recommend to have your impression that "she is the one" come up in any of your conversations with her early on. It's just spiritual manipulation. If she's the one God has for you, she will see it too. The best way to find out it's true is to trust the Lord and to see it happen. That doesn't mean you can't take steps to show her your interest (of course you should) but she needs to her from the Lord herself whether you are the one for her or not. Whatever we think we heard bears no significance for the decision of another. And if we already doubt that the other person can hear God for themselves, then how are we going to form a spiritual and trusting relationship with that person later on? It's not a good start into a potential relationship.<br /><br />Long story short, you don't have to see this initial supernatural halo around someone to know she or he's the one. Sometimes noticing someone and realizing this person is "the one" is gradual. God writes unique stories with each couple.Benjamin Schäferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-57497793907396960392023-01-24T21:31:29.122+01:002023-01-24T21:31:29.122+01:00This is so Awesome! I’m glad I’m not the only one ...This is so Awesome! I’m glad I’m not the only one that believes that God has someone very special made for you if you just wait on the Lord!<br /><br />I didn’t believe in the one at first because I grew up thinking you gotta choose your partner, because people around me were doing that. But when I was 14 I randomly got a dream about a mysterious girl that gave me the most beautiful feeling that i have ever experienced in my life! But I thought it was too good to be true so I forgot about it.<br /><br />Then years went by and I occasionally think of her randomly think from out of no where or I’d see things that reminded me of her. I still thought it was too good to be true. I then kept getting rejected and hurt by other girls over the years, but then I asked myself “What do I actually want in a partner?” Then I remembered the girl from my dream. I then thought to myself it was too good to be true that she exists. I can just imagine God face palming his face being like “When will you realize I’m trying to tell you she exists?…”<br /><br />I then decided to find a girl that reminds me of her or at-least some things. But of course had no luck. I would get ghosted and stuff every time I tried. But then one day while I was at work I had enough. I then said to myself “I give up!” But then God gave me my first sign to not to give up and that’s when I realized “Ohh maybe she does exist” <br /><br />There is a lot to the story but it’ll take too long. I’m 23 now and still waiting to see if she comes into my life somehow while I least expect it. I’ve been waiting for 2 years so far.<br /><br />But I have a question. When you said you looked at your wife for the first time you knew she was your wife. Did she see you and thought “He’s my husband”?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-87580046435339829252023-01-17T04:10:12.904+01:002023-01-17T04:10:12.904+01:00Thank you for sharing Ben! I relate to your story ...Thank you for sharing Ben! I relate to your story so much and have learned similar things. Sometimes, it seems like the closer you walk with Jesus, the more difficult life is, and everything seems to have to be a testimony. I am at the point of knowing there is no hope of meeting the right person apart from God’s intervention, and so I am acting out the parable of the persistant single. The waiting is hard, and it can be tempting to try to just enjoy life and quash the desire for a partner, but it’s just not possible and it’s not what God wants either. It can also be discouraging to see other people struggling, while others have someone dropped into their lap easily. But our faith definitely changes things, and I’m confident God is doing everything He can to prevent delays and to bring the right person. I have fears that it won’t happen for years and years, but even more than that I am sure that He is good and sees our confidence in Him. Thanks for the encouragement and I’m so glad to see God came through for you! I feel like God brought me to your article to confirm what He’s been showing me and that He really does bring people together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-21655834387957751182022-12-29T11:38:08.085+01:002022-12-29T11:38:08.085+01:00It's a longer and fascinating story for sure. ...It's a longer and fascinating story for sure. In short, when I had very little hope left myself, she walked into the prayer room while I was leading worship. The moment I saw her, it was like I "remembered" her from all the years of praying and I knew it's her and that we would grow old together. Without telling her any of that, I started pursuing her, within 3 weeks of knowing her name, we were in a relationship and got married one year later. God was very present in the formation of our relationship so that He left no doubt it was Him.Benjamin Schäferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-51452237515384157272022-12-28T02:57:03.751+01:002022-12-28T02:57:03.751+01:00Thanks for the beautiful update. Would love to kno...Thanks for the beautiful update. Would love to know how you met your wife.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-72002387754877827262021-10-17T00:19:56.197+02:002021-10-17T00:19:56.197+02:00God brings people togetherGod brings people togetherEbenezer Suresh Work Accounthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988894991395138324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-88323665887023140602021-10-06T18:42:20.278+02:002021-10-06T18:42:20.278+02:00Thank you so much for this article - it really enc...Thank you so much for this article - it really encouraged me in a very hard, dark season. I'm 36 and still waiting, unkissed, never dated... I've been struggling to keep hope that God even had someone for me. Had they been the victim of an abortion? Or maybe I missed them or was one of the unlucky chosen to carry the burden of Matt 19:10-12... even some married "friends" were saying I should pray and ask God if maybe that was my calling. <br /><br />This article gave me hope. I think I need to pray for new friends who have faith to stand with me that God DOES have the most perfect person chosen for me and will bring us together in His perfect time! God can do anything - move heaven and earth to bring us our spouse. Don't give up hope, keep standing in faith and seeking God's love for you and how you can love those around you while you wait. God bless you all and thank you again for this dose of hope!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-17208065960869160552021-01-31T04:11:34.525+01:002021-01-31T04:11:34.525+01:00Please do NOT marry the Jehovah's Witness!I wa...Please do NOT marry the Jehovah's Witness!I was unsaved when I married 42 years ago. My ex husband was a member of the worldwide church of God(Armstrongism). He tithed but never attended services. I got saved in 1994. Fast forward about 10 years. We had adopted our beautiful daughter. In 2005, my ex decided to join an offshoot of the first religion and it's called the living church of God( I refuse to capitalize because neither one of the aforementioned are biblical churches). It is a FALSE religion, just as the JW are and is also listed as a theological cult. He started attending their services and was completely brainwashed. He changed into a completely different person in a horrible way. Our daughter was only 9 years old at the time and because we didn't go along and approve, he became furious. He alienated himself from us and abandoned us emotionally. I lived in torment for 10 years. Then God revealed in a most unusual way an affair that he had had almost 30 years earlier. He also revealed a huge sum of money that he stole from our daughter(college fund from her grandparents that was entrusted to him for safekeeping) and He also revealed him mocking me and making fun of me with other women on Facebook. I tried for 4 years but things only got better for a brief period of time after I found out about the decades old affair. This coward(I won't call him a man) is a master manipulator and emotional abuser. I'm mot saying that the guy you're talking about would ever do those types of things. I'm sorry for getting off track but just wanted to show how God does reveal things to us in His own timing(took almost 30 years in my case). He knew everything that was going on behind my back and I believe with all my heart that He wanted me to have a better life. We divorced a little over a year ago after 40 years of marriage. I'm 62 years old and feel like I was never truly married because of all the lying and deception. I cry out and pray to God for a godly, Christian spouse every day. The waiting is horrendous but being married to the wrong man would be even worse. I know it's 4 years later and I pray you haven't married this man. I don't ever want another human being to have to suffer like I did. He purely hated me because I refused to take part in his religion. Our daughter still suffers the effects of it all too. It's hard waiting but God knows who and what's best for us. Please listen to His still,small voice. He loves you and will guide you if you'll allow Him to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-16365516411241894232021-01-20T04:37:06.365+01:002021-01-20T04:37:06.365+01:00Great article! I definitely know the pain of my ow...Great article! I definitely know the pain of my own ways and know how I just don't seem to know how to choose the right one. It has taken me till the age of 37 to finally humble myself and say I am going to allow the Lord to lead me to who He has for my life. I will trust Him in ALL my ways and stop leaning on my own understanding. The thing is you can tell people the advice you give in this article every day but until a person learns through experience its very hard to accept. I would have told you its completely foolish in my early twenties to wait for my spouse. Much heartache and many failed attempts later I can say this article is spot on. Thank you for sharing this. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12287784035028908523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-46921006427487514102019-12-26T02:26:20.247+01:002019-12-26T02:26:20.247+01:00So excited to see all your years of patiently wait...So excited to see all your years of patiently waiting and trusting the Lord was finally rewarded Ben! Gives myself a lot of hope in my walk of singleness to remain faithful and patient. I'm in the same boat you were in, at 25 it seems like everyone I know is married and having kids, it eats at my heart. But, I know the Lord has a plan that I can't see and remaining faithful to Him is the most honoring thing I can do. And I pray every night that He brings a godly woman into my life. Thank you for encouraging testimony and wisdom Ben!<br />-Josh-Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738027347215120067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-49793604379802634472019-12-05T01:29:44.103+01:002019-12-05T01:29:44.103+01:00Stay in faith. This life is short and our eternity...Stay in faith. This life is short and our eternity with Jesus is filled with eternal happiness and joy where there is no sin, stress, sickness, etc. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-90072413516055770952019-12-03T22:27:40.661+01:002019-12-03T22:27:40.661+01:00Hello,
I am puzzled by my answered prayer. I have ...Hello,<br />I am puzzled by my answered prayer. I have been married for 15 years and wanted to get out of it because of repeated adultery and lack of repentance of my spouse. While I am praying for separation and divorce I had asked the Lord to give me a wife who loves him and live with me in peace and harmony. The lord had showed me a woman in my vision while sleep. I saw this woman in a church in another town where I started living in the process of separation. Since I am still not legally divorced, I couldn't connect with this woman and talk about marriage. <br />I returned to my hometown to take the next step (selling our home) to divorce my wife. I thought this is the right time to connect with the woman in the other church who happen to be widowed and had some attraction to me. I called her a year after and asked her if she would marry me and told her about the Lord's vision. She responded saying she has never prayed to remarry and wouldn't marry a man of my background (divorced, social status, etc.). <br />How do I process this? <br />Is she rejecting the Lord's instruction to marry me? <br />Does the Lord have another spiritual purpose? <br />Please let me know what the Jesus reveals to you.<br />M.B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-89242131000434186772019-11-10T20:04:19.845+01:002019-11-10T20:04:19.845+01:00I'm encouraged through your word. God bless yo...I'm encouraged through your word. God bless youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11037111251006113671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-28690751439120447532019-04-11T22:23:50.321+02:002019-04-11T22:23:50.321+02:00Acts 26:18Acts 26:18Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-12714693642283158082019-04-11T12:56:18.852+02:002019-04-11T12:56:18.852+02:00Bejamine, there are some typos is the comment abov...Bejamine, there are some typos is the comment above. I am not referring to an Eric in my message. There are a few more typis I hope you will discernment!<br />- ChandaChandahttp://heatlandenheartlandent.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-77200970194305076692019-04-11T12:51:37.781+02:002019-04-11T12:51:37.781+02:00Fearest Benjamin,
Since I found your blog, it was ...Fearest Benjamin,<br />Since I found your blog, it was actually in direct response from God straight to me, on a most certain miraculous way! And during my chosen prayer and fasting, adkias the Lord God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob but Most affectionately Christ my Lord and Savior! Your stories and words of encouragement with sacred scriptures really were on target and totllto touched my heart! <br />Though I had a Super Divine and real extraordinary experiences in the Spirit manifested in DIRECT RESPONSE to my specific requests for guidance, I trusted bevabec of the Powerful insights you wrote. But much time elapsed and 3ven though I stood in faith, I came to find that the man I Believed God unanimously communicated to me is His desire and plan for my life, I have grown weary. I Never Ceased to pray God's blessings in His Word by Acts 28:16 and Ephesians Chapter 1 and other appropriate scriptures, I fell so disheartened after Five years of being sweet, generous and putting God First, this man disappeared and then returned 10 months later to find that he came back appreciative and freshly more attentive but all of a sudden, out of the clear blue sky, he went right back to pulling every attempt to accomplish one thing. Telling me sex is very important and he wanted to bring his bag to stay and try out living with me because he said relationships dhoush be tried on to see if Eric get on each other's nerves!<br />I gently tried to lead him to faith in God but he got mad because I didn't like how rough he would be in his heat of passion. I said intimacy is important but it needs to be in the right place under the Will of God but after a long silence I backed off.<br />I've been praying Nonstop morning noon and night for Christ's Holy Spirit to fill him and protect him from all the temptation surrounding him but IveI become so discouraged. He ignored me since and I wonder if God is actually working in his life to follow the path of Christ. I can't help but have concern for my own life and Spiritual connection with God and my hopes are just shattered. Devastated and with anxiety form life ImI afraid I've grown weary.<br />Please advise with your spiritual insight, Benjamin! I'm tired and I fear I doing the countless sign, synchronistic events and what I once believed to be continuous assurance that this was God's Will.<br />Your insight and scriptural knowledge is Much Appreciated.Chandahttp://heartlandentertainment.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-2577003165728323252019-02-07T01:34:59.946+01:002019-02-07T01:34:59.946+01:00At 48 I think it's pretty much a foregone conc...At 48 I think it's pretty much a foregone conclusion that God is punishing me for something or he's just capricious because I am convinced I am at the point where I'm going to be a single, loveless, celibate monk for the rest of my life and into all eternity. I have to wonder why I've wasted my time being sexually pure all these years when it doesn't seem to have benefited me at all. I am angry at God that I wish I could actually give away my salvation because what good is eternal life if I suffer here on earth and beyond without what just about everyone else has, a mate. God supposedly said it wasn't good that man be alone but apparently it's good to him that I am alone. I once believed God cared for me but 48 years of singleness proves otherwise. I wish I could do what Job's wife suggested, curse God and die.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08819009732101299131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-75907033899852501962019-01-14T02:57:33.793+01:002019-01-14T02:57:33.793+01:00I'm in the same boat as unknown. I'm 58 y...I'm in the same boat as unknown. I'm 58 years old and every woman I've ever been in love with has rejected me. Is this a curse from God and why is He putting me through this? Nearly every friend and relative I know has been provided with a mate. All I've gotten over the decades is rejection. Why??????????????????????Robert Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10646556402065925176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-37396745610257293642019-01-07T19:47:22.587+01:002019-01-07T19:47:22.587+01:00I do believe that in suffering, hopelessness and s...I do believe that in suffering, hopelessness and struggles of all kinds, being totally honest with God is one of the best things that you can do, even when it gets ugly. He already knows our thoughts and feelings. Might as well just talk to Him about those things. In the Bible I never saw Him reprove anyone when they got real with God.<br /><br />Anyway, I would challenge you to read the following article I wrote a while ago which perfectly fits your frustration: <br />https://yearningheartsjourney.blogspot.com/2018/06/battle-for-gods-motives-why-bad-things-happen.html<br /><br />"A hurting heart is in great danger to misinterpret His actions and assume that there are inferior motives in the heart of God. So over the years I found myself challenged to often review what I believe to be the reasons why God does or doesn’t do certain things in my life."Benjamin Schäferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-58857140885930394072018-12-31T21:46:52.511+01:002018-12-31T21:46:52.511+01:00God is a real super Asshole for not giving a good ...God is a real super Asshole for not giving a good man like me a good wife and family that i always wanted to have since he gave it to so many others. Why not me God you moron?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14122206535369570881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-83137959932422982582018-11-16T10:35:59.982+01:002018-11-16T10:35:59.982+01:00Thank you for the article. It gives me comfort and...Thank you for the article. It gives me comfort and hope that God will show me the way and will provide when the time is right.<br />I broke up last month from a relationship of 1 and half year, because it was completely draining me emotionally and spiritually because of his lack of commitment and insensitiveness. More importantly, I prayed to God about this and God gave me an obvious answer that this is never going to work out.<br />Needless to say, I suffered a month worth of emotional wreck from this and slowly picking myself back up, and there is now a great sense of worry that i might never find anyone, and the wait is very painful, with the agony of not knowing if God will truly grant my prayers.<br />I know there are many of us out there, still looking, still searching, still waiting for the one that is provided by God.<br />Your article gave me comfort to know that He will provide and He knows what is best, and we are not alone in this search and waiting line.<br />I pray for the best for everyone here. <br />The search and wait is painful, but i believe that God is seeing this and will answer eventually.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-88463854816962046962018-09-26T06:39:16.686+02:002018-09-26T06:39:16.686+02:00God has answered my prayers with your article. I h...God has answered my prayers with your article. I have found myself awakening to the fact that my someone is missing and how I just want to help them grow in God. Especially this year, a good friend is getting married. It has caused a lot of doubt for me in if God will ever introduce me to the one He made for me. This was a direct answer to my prayers asking God what to do with how I feel. God is wonderful and I am so blessed to have read this, for in my waiting, I can have assurance. Thank you! God bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-87877492382855706252018-08-21T12:17:28.152+02:002018-08-21T12:17:28.152+02:00I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must be ...I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must be very painful. Not getting closure, especially when communication ends suddenly, can make it very hard to heal and move on, I know from personal experience. I'm also very sorry for your disappointment. I pray that your heart will heal and become tender towards God and men again in due time. Much strength to you, sister!Benjamin Schäferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-67979070729967651352018-08-21T12:14:33.688+02:002018-08-21T12:14:33.688+02:00Hey Cynthia! Yes, the waiting can be painful, and ...Hey Cynthia! Yes, the waiting can be painful, and trust is at times more difficult. One quote that really resonated with me is, "Worse than waiting on God is wishing you had." This point of view really grounds me in times when I'm sick of the waiting. Wishing you the best, and a deep hope that won't disappoint.Benjamin Schäferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661827092578677661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2063226095666261781.post-87038827460385424662018-08-14T20:31:18.965+02:002018-08-14T20:31:18.965+02:00Dear brother Benjamin, May God bless you. Your art...Dear brother Benjamin, May God bless you. Your article helped me to be more patient and to have complete faith in God. I had experienced lots of good things gifted to me by God through His grace even when I don't deserve His love. Still I become weak in faith time to time and seek for something to make my faith grow. <br />I wish that you get the best thing in life and become more closer to God and lead many people to God and help them understand God's love for mankind. <br /><br />It is painful to wait when answers are delayed but we should learn to understand that God will take care and God loves us more than we could ever love our ownselves. Cynthiahttp://none.none.comnoreply@blogger.com